Thursday, October 9, 2008

Where do you even start?

The next time I try to pack this much into one week… well… see what you can do to stop the madness!! 

A recap?

Yesterday:

  • Jadon began the day with a fit big enough that I needed to call my dad for help.
  • preschool for both little ones (after dad got Jadon calmed)
  • I volunteered at school
  • picked them up and ate lunch with Lucas
  • went back home and made dinner
  • dropped  K off at my parents
  • drove to school to pick up Leah
  • drove to doctor’s office
  • 1 hour at the pediatrician
  • went to a counseling appointment
  • 1 hour at a counseling appointment
  • called mom to go to my house and put the dinner in the oven
  • went back to hospital to get x-ray
  • drove to my parents to get K and Lucas and dinner
  • drove home
  • ate dinner
  • became overwhelmed with my messy house.
  • asked about homework
  • supervised homework and once more became frustrated to the point of wanting to pull out my own hair!
  • finally got kids to bed.
  • sanded and painted part of my cupboards.
  • folded 3 baskets of laundry
  • swept the living room carpet.
  • scrubbed spots off of living room carpet.
  • went to bed way too late.

Today:

  • Woke up to clean house!  Felt SO good!
  • Dropped K off at my parents
  • Went with J on his field trip to the pumpkin Kingdom
  • Drove back to my parents and got K.
  • Went home made dinner
  • Tried to take a nap
  • Dropped J and K off at my parent’s house.
  • Drove to the school to get Zach for a thumb recheck.
  • Drove Zach back to the school (40 miles round trip)
  • Went to Troyers Grocery store
  • Went back to the school, enjoyed a whole hour of alone time while I waited for football practice to end.
  • Drove home 4 kids, plus two of mine.
  • Picked up J & K.
  • Went home to eat dinner.
  • Found my Crockpot meal was not done.
  • Sanded more of my cabinets while we waited for it to get done.
  • Microwaved, crockpot meal.
  • drove over to my sisters to take some pictures of her kids.
  • came back to find Jadon was trying to follow me on foot.
  • put Jadon to bed.
  • read to kids.
  • put other kids to bed.
  • finally on my computer again.

Anyone have any comments?  Or did you all pass out from pure exhaustion?  Yeah.  Me too.

Lets not forget to figure in the mental issues that are going amidst this all.

Kiahna didn’t have the greatest day of preschool yesterday.  In an effort to find a solution, the teacher has asked me to come and stay the next time.

At the pediatrician appointment I asked for an evaluation of her.   I have this fear that I don’t want to face, that there may be something medically wrong with her.  I decided it is time to rule out some of these things.  If this is purely strong will and stubbornness then I need to know.

That appointment is next Thursday morning.

I also made an appointment for both her and Jadon to see the counselor again next week.  That is on Wednesday.

SOMEONE PLEASE STOP ME, I AM GOING TO DO THIS ALL OVER AGAIN NEXT WEEK!

But, what are my options?  I need to do all that I can to help my kids succeed.  To survive.

When I took Jadon to the pediatrician, she asked if I wanted to try some ADHD meds again.  I don’t.  But, he was bouncing around her room like you would not believe.  It was overwhelming.  It was tiring.  I am tired.  He wears me out.  He is hyper.  He is impulsive.  We tried meds before.  It didn’t go so well.  I don’t like them.  I also don’t really enjoy being driven to insanity myself… so I took the prescription offered.

Then I drove to the counselors office.  You would have thought between the two offices (two blocks) I had picked up a different child. This Jadon was well mannered.  Behaved.  Not hyper.  Not bouncing off the walls.

My conclusion?  The pediatrician is a woman.  The counselor is a man.  Jadon loves and craves the counselor’s attention.  Today after I picked him up from my parent’s house, Jadon asked if we could go back and see the counselor, “I just love him, mom”. 

After how he responded to my dad’s discipline that morning too.  (and always)

He needs more male time in his life.  I think it would make the world of a difference if he had a father.

So, I say to my God.  The One who has promised to be the Father to the fatherless.  Help.  I don’t know what to do.

Zach’s thumb is healing fine.

The other x-ray was on Leah’s finger.  Her brother’s tripped her up last weekend and she fell on her fingers and the doctor wanted them checked out.  She is fine though.

I don’t have any answers.  I need wisdom.  I need strength.  I need prayer.

I need to go to bed.

Pam

6 comments:

Jennifer said...

WHEW girl, slow down!! Now I need to go to bed...LOL! Stay strong and keep praying, I know that doesn't sound too encouraging but it's all I can think of right now!! I will pray for your strength and wisdom sister!! Take care and God Bless!
P.S. You make my life seem not so busy anymore!

He & Me + 3 said...

Dear Pam,

I think that every Mom at some point feels the way you are feeling now.
You are busy...you have 6 children and are doing it alone. Thank God for your parents. We are both lucky that our parents are close enough to just come over and help when the going gets tough. Your father sounds like a godsend. I am going to pray that God gives you wisdom & peace. I wish that we lived closer...I would help out if I could, but I can pray...and I will.
Hang in there and have a better Friday.
Mimi

holandjoe said...

I thought my day was crazy.
Love ya lots,
Holly

Tara Steffen Fotos said...

You're getting a prayer today! I'm going to shake Heaven for you! You are doing a great job!

Mom24 said...

You know, don't lose sight of the fact that you're doing the very best you can and sometimes, even when it doesn't seem like it, it really is good enough. Hang in there, one day, even one hour at a time. As your older boys grow, maybe they will be able to be that male role model for Jadon. I'm so sorry it's so hard right now. It really does sound exhausting and overwhelming. Be as good to yourself as you can.

anymommy said...

I am so glad that you got a good night's sleep after all of this. It's so hard to keep up, life just keeps going. But, I know you'll find your answers.