So, after thinking, praying & reading your comments on my last post, I felt like I needed to call Jim and make sure he knew about the musical. I called tonight & he said he didn’t know anything about it. I’ll give him the benefit of the doubt, but I am pretty sure he was lying about that, but anyway… I told him about it & he said he was going to come.
So, Zach gets home… he says “I need to call dad about the musical” I said, “yes, you do, I told you to do that a month ago”.
Of course he doesn’t remember that I said that!
GRRRR!!!!
Anyway, I did my part… micromanaged…. uhg, uhg, uhg.
Of course at this point there are no good seat available & they will have to sit on the sides…
WHY DO I HAVE TO DO EVERYTHING FOR EVERYONE!!??!!
I told him he should tell his family… I doubt any of them will come.
I have no relationship with his mom. She is actually much worse off than he even is, and the root of many of his issues. His dad passed away many years ago of cancer. It’s very difficult to explain without giving many gory details, but sometimes people are just not “safe” people to be in relationship with… does that make any sense?
Zach isn’t feeling well, he has a cold, at least I hope it’s only a cold. There is construction going on at the school that has had his sinus’s clogged for a while. He thought it was wax in his ear making so he couldn’t hear, I kept telling him I thought it was fluid. He had the school nurse look at it today & she agrees with me. So, he’s taking some allergy meds & hopefully will pull out of it quickly.
Kiahna is having good days at school!!! SO HAPPY for that!!!
Tonight she was working on her phone number, she’s been working on it for quite awhile, and she just doesn’t get it. FAS can make learning incredibly difficult, sometimes I just don’t know if she will “get” things. I decided to put the number to music & she got it!!!! We sang it about 100 times tonight! Tomorrow I hope I can remember the tune, I tried to make it simple & put it to Mary had a little lamb, but it didn’t flow, so I am not sure what song it is to the tune of!
Yesterday I got my new washer & dryer… oh my!!! As of now everything in the house is washed!!! LOVE the larger loads!!!!! MAYBE I won’t have to live with HUGE piles of laundry constantly laying on my laundry room floor!!!!
I also got my new sump pump & back up sump pump… which isn’t nearly as exciting…but just about as costly…
The basement is slowly going back together, I am throwing lots of stuff away & giving lots away!
My water heater might be leaking & my brakes might be squeaking… but I am out of money so they both need to hold on for awhile!!
The next 3 nights we will be at the musical each night… I am taking both girls out of school tomorrow after lunch for Kiahna’s counseling and swim suit shopping for Leah…
DID I MENTION THAT WE LEAVE FOR FLORIDA IN A LITTLE OVER WEEK!!!??!!!
Pam
6 comments:
We definitely have people in our extended families who are not "safe" to be in relationship with. Totally understand.
Yea for BIG washing machines. :)
Laurel
Sadly, I get it too. I think it's more common than we think.
Tough comment here, but I would say stop micromanaging. Mention things to Zach, but I wouldn't call your ex. If they know you're always going to step in, neither one of them has to do anything. Plus, then if it doesn't happen, they feel justified in blaming you. Don't enable that.
Good luck with everything. Glad Kiahna's doing better. Enjoy the musical.
Hey friend. Love hearing you blog more often but 100% understand when you don't. I've quit all together for a season. :)
Yay for the big washer/dryer!!! woohoo :)
Totally understand the not communicating with the "unsafe" people. That is a different situation.
I think it's a good call that while your kids are under 18 (those that still are), still giving ex a heads up on activities and then taking a deep breath and letting that be the end of that. As a kid of divorced parents I often didn't want to tell my Dad about stuff out of fear of rejection... and would put it off just so I didn't have to risk hearing him say "no" or "we'll see." Or even worse "yes" and then have him be a no-show or cancel on me. I can relate to being that kid! :)
Love you in Christ!!!
florida.....woo hoo. that's the best and as for 'safe' family....can relate. Hang tight and have a ton of fun on your trip
Wow! Sounds like you have a lot going on.
Happy blogoversary :)
Yay for Florida (which is where I live lol). I know exactly what you mean by safe.
As for the micro managing, I agree with Mom24 but see the other side where the commenter said she was a divorced child and often didn't tell the other parent. So, my advice is to give it to God and let it go. If you feel led by the Spirit to call then do it. If not then leave it and forget it.
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